Stefanie Selen is a psychologist turned communication expert and author, whose work centres on emotional intelligence, communication, assertiveness, and the everyday practice of resilience.
She began her career in child protective services, working with high-risk children, their families, and the perpetrators (an experience that shaped her deep understanding of human behaviour, trauma, and the mechanics of real-world coping).
She later moved into private practice, broadening her therapeutic approach and working more closely with adults seeking lasting change.
After permanently relocating to France, Stefanie transitioned into the corporate world, where she integrates her psychological expertise into the pedagogical design and delivery of professional learning and development programs. Today, she trains and coaches leaders across industries, helping them strengthen communication, presence, self- advocacy, boundaries, confidence, and emotional intelligence.
Her approach is rooted in a mission of resilience and self-care, as she blends research-based insights with warm clarity, and just enough wit to make the hard truths easier to digest.
A lifelong expat, Stefanie grew up across continents. Belgian born and Australian national, she’s lived and worked in the US, Middle East, Australia, Asia, and Europe. A background that has cultivated her open-mindedness and curiosity for different perspectives.
The moment that defined her drive to actively build a philosophy around resilience was brought on by a personal trauma. Years of people-pleasing, and not speaking up soon enough, led to an assault that crossed every boundary. It became the turning point that pushed her to develop the assertive, compassionate mindset she shares and teaches today.
Across her work, Stefanie champions the introspective approach that battling your emotions or pretending you have no weaknesses is a losing game. The magic happens when you accept them, understand them, and learn to manage them.
Her debut book The Tough Cookie Philosophy laid that foundation. Her second book Outf*ck The F*ckers has taken it to the next level.
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