OUTFUCK THE FUCKERS
For the people-pleasers, the fixers, the peacemakers, the “reasonable ones” who keep absorbing chaos while others take up space.
You don’t need to be louder. You don’t need to be tougher. You just need to stop being so easy to interrupt.
This book is for those who were raised to be polite, accommodating, and agreeable – and who now find themselves exhausted, overextended, and quietly furious at how often their boundaries get crossed.Rather than teaching you how to fight back, call people out, or “be more confident,” this book shows you how to become unf*ckwithable – calmly, strategically, and without losing your kindness (or your mind).
You’ll learn how to:
- Spot everyday bullies, manipulators, and power players early on
- Understand why good people get targeted, and how your strengths can be misused against you
- Regain control through Inner Power (emotional regulation), Outer Power (language, tone, and presence), and Strategic Power (long-game thinking)
- Protect your peace without guilt, drama, or over-explaining
- Turn painful experiences into clarity, confidence, and purpose
This is not a clinical manual or a book about diagnosing narcissists. It’s a practical, human guide based on real experience, psychology, and lived patterns – written with humour, honesty, and zero fluff.
You won’t learn how to “win” every interaction. You’ll learn how to stop playing games you never agreed to.
This book helps you choose your energy, your battles, and yourself – every time.
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THE TOUGH COOKIE PHILOSOPHY
The Tough Cookie Philosophy is a mindset Stefanie has been actively shaping since her twenties – a philosophy built over 25 years of real-life experience, refined through her work as a psychologist and executive coach. It’s the approach she’s relied on through every challenge, personally and professionally.
She learned early on that you can take the “ass” out of being assertive and still speak up and hold your ground. Assertiveness isn’t aggression — it’s clarity. It’s positioning yourself with respect. It’s kindness that doesn’t collapse under pressure. Strength and softness aren’t opposites; they’re partners. And being a doormat? That’s a choice. Becoming a tough cookie begins the moment you decide to get off the floor.
This book goes beyond the predictable self-help loop of positive thinking and affirmations. (Don’t worry — they’re still in there.) But The Tough Cookie Philosophy takes it further by embracing the full emotional spectrum: your strengths and your weaknesses, your positivity and your negativity. Because resilience isn’t built by pretending everything is fine — it’s built by learning how to handle what isn’t.
At the heart of the book are the five ingredients of resilience:
- Courage to face discomfort,
- Control to focus on what you can influence,
- Connection to lean on others and yourself,
- Kindness to stop beating yourself up, and
- Commitment to show up even when it’s hard.
The book uses these ingredients to reframe self-doubt and low confidence — not as personal flaws, but as normal reactions to hardship that just don’t serve you anymore. It’s a fresh, grounded approach to self-development that acknowledges your emotions, teaches you how to manage them, and shows you how to reprogram unhelpful patterns with honesty and actionable steps — plus a few well-timed truth bombs.
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“The Tough Cookie Philosophy reads as easily as if you were in a bar having a nice conversation with the author herself” – Tim G. (loyal reader)
“Love the entire philosophy and the witty approach the book takes. It turns a thoughtful topic into an educational, but still enjoyable, read “ – My husband (not forced to say this at all)
“Read the book – if you’re in need of a night in with your best friend who gives no b*shit, sage advice – this is what you need!” – Patrycja V. (loyal reader)
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